I always used to wonder why no girls would ever want me, I would always see guys that I thought I was better then in all aspects (my opinion of course ) and wonder why they did not choose me over them. It was easy for me to like girls that I should never be with or never will be with because it added to the excuse and denial aspect of the reason as to why I never got chicks. I remember seeing all my friends except me with women, no matter how unattractive either were. I also remember lying about my virginity status because I was so ashamed of still being a virgin, I would also lie about things I would do with women or greatly exaggerate it so I would not feel so pathetic around everyone. Another thing is, what ever we may perceive as ugly, douche baggish, dumb, horrible personality, arrogant, and whatever else, may be entirely different then what a girl perceives as such. I used to think the same way, I eventually realized it's jealousy. The fact that someone I think I am better then is getting a girl I feel should be with me. So we insult them. When I finally got a girl, (not due to me going out and getting, it happened because of an odd situation and she basically forced it upon me) she taught me how to act, say what at certain times, how to fix myself up and dress, how to kiss, have sex, etc.. She also taught me what it was like to be hurt. Thing is, after all my experiences in the past few years I learned if you are socially inept towards women, set your standards and expectations way above what you can possibly get, have no experience, do not know how to present your self in an attractive way, or know how to control your emotions you are NOT going to get the girl you long for. Plain and simple. My advice, start from the bottom (not a total trailer trash fugly whore), learn how to talk to and deal with women and go from there.