Ok, not born in US and grow up there might be a cultural problem. I know that most Asian kids do not like to go partying. They prefer the mangas, comics, games etc etc But seriously, Fatal is giving good advices here. You can try to join the crowd and hang out with them. but this could be very tough. I also have tough time belnding into the crowd. i always stand out among them (being tall not helping) and have "weird" hobbies (like to draw cartoons, play games when the others are busy partying, tackling girls, or just hanging out). And thagt is during school era. But I did changed when i go to the university. Open up my eyes and mind more and mix with more people (even if they are only from my own race). I ended up doing not so well in my study but brush my social skills and i never regret till this day. It might be too soon to tell you to try and mix with the crowds and everything. i would say, stay being yourself as long as you are happy. if you are not, join groups or churches that promotes group activities. being more active will help too. This really need a self-push from yourself. BTW, i also like reading when young besides games, so you cna always hang out in the library. You never know, you might hit with the right people there Partying and drinking is not for everyone so find your own niche group (i am lucky i have found a group who likes to play games here, besides doing "karaoke-ing" )