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[Lucandrake]

I think crap hit the fan when his girl got pregnant >.>

[Krosigrim]

Unfortunately, this is a scenario for disaster. If this is the case. There will be no smoking for her, if she was a smoker to begin with. And if that is so, he will really need to consider all the scenarios therein. More than just smoking. School and work. Everything. Ooh boy.

[L.S.D]

If you smoke ganja here, the authority will cane you (and it is a big cane) 10 times, with each times causing not to be able to sit for 2 weeks, and they wait till your wound healed before caning you at the correct spot. So basically, it is a 20 weeks ordeal. And some jail time.

 

All these are worst case scenario. It is ok if you don't get caught or do it in the open

[Krosigrim]

Well, I don't know him very well. BUT... I know relationships..... very very well. I understand basic differences in people. He runs the risk, of alienating himself if he smokes again. It totally depends on him and the girl, on how they take their next steps. But generally speaking, him smoking, while she doesn't, might create a scenario for uncertainty. Say he smokes, but he is no slouch. He never misses work, the house is always clean, as when he sees a mess, he cleans it. School is always taken care of .... basically everything is the same, as if he wasn't smoking. And say she is the coolest chick ever..... When a girl has a life growing inside her, things change. Values alter, hell... since of smell enhances... will she appreciate smelling it on him... And will she freak out once she hits 4+ months.

 

I think INKY might have some good insight on this issue. He has kids...

 

I'm just trying to be a realist about this whole thing. And hope I might be a lead into some insight he might need.

[Inky]

I think INKY might have some good insight on this issue. He has kids...

 

I'm just trying to be a realist about this whole thing. And hope I might be a lead into some insight he might need.

I got nothin' he'd listen too. LOL I am really anti drugs after you become a parent, it's hard enough completely sober, add drugs and alcohol in there and you are automatically a shitty parent in my opinion. pre kids I had no issue with any of that stuff, but Kids have ZERO control of their environment. it is the parent job to make that environment as safe and clean as possible, a few drinks here and there, no big deal I guess. I'm pretty square when it comes to parenting. get all that party crap out of your system before you go bringing helpless little ones along for the ride.

[solidius23]

i hope for you and your kids sake u get all that out of your system, parenting involves a LOT of sacrifices on your part, like inky said it's your responsibility to create a great enviroment for your kids to grow up in so they can be a better value to society and a true representation of you and your parenting skills.parenting isnt just some fly by night, read some books and watch some videos kind of thing, its basically like having a second job. no basic to it, it is a second full time job. and double that when u got 2 or more, my kids keep me on my toes all the time.

[Alpha]

i hope for you and your kids sake u get all that out of your system, parenting involves a LOT of sacrifices on your part, like inky said it's your responsibility to create a great enviroment for your kids to grow up in so they can be a better value to society and a true representation of you and your parenting skills.parenting isnt just some fly by night, read some books and watch some videos kind of thing, its basically like having a second job. no basic to it, it is a second full time job. and double that when u got 2 or more, my kids keep me on my toes all the time.

I agree with both Solidius and Garageink. A kid's lifestyle should not include yours. If you can't give the child a great environment, then I strongly would consider thinking about other options. It really isn't fair to the baby IMO.

 

And you should tell your parents Shiba. You're going to need their help. I guarantee it.

 

Good luck.

[solidius23]

game cop is right parents are a great source for info,support,and they are great and willing babysitters for the most part lol.

[Krosigrim]

Oh man I just checked up on this thread for the first time since I put my 2 cents in. I see some great advice, but no word from Shiba.

 

The guys are right. Kids are major work, and major priority. The best scenario is to be the best that you can be. Then everything else will fall into place. Well... more so than if you still have stuff you need to work on.