Does your family annoy you and drag you down? in Gossip Café [/offtopic] Posted January 13, 2012 Honestly, both my wife and I have issues with our families. We moved pretty far away, that distance makes a great "excuse" and buffer, and honestly, through social media we have re-connected with worth while friends and family. I wanted to respond to you because likely you have heard from friends or other family members things like "Oh no, stick with the family" , "Family comes first", "You need to work it out" etc but I am here to say as you have probably experienced not everyone can understand or relate to another persons family issues and NO you don't always need to stand by your family and stick with them regardless of how they treat you. Sometimes, you need to put your foot down HARD, put you and your wife/child first as a priority and if the family members who are annoying you or dumping on you realize your more than a door mat then let them come to you. As an example both my mother and her brother are worry warts, glass half empty types, always assuming the worse. It took years longer than I care to admit but one day I put my foot down and said "Look, I am tired of hearing about nothing but your problems in life, when you call I automatically was bummed out knowing I was going to hear all about your latest troubles, instead of bitching and complaining why don't you DO something about them?" . I know they were shocked, stunned etc. The end result was my mother would actually call and talk about things OTHER than problems. Sadly my Uncle I hardly ever hear from now, since he knows he cannot just dump all his problems on me anymore apparently I am of no use. Yeah it was the hardest thing I ever did and you know what? I am glad I did it and I would not think 2x to do it again!