is there some kind of way to do simple threading??
the only thing that i can do right now is set up a timer and have a nonblocking recv, but i would like it to be blicked when the next lib comes out and have my program wait for it while it is also doing other things

You can do small thing in Vblank interrupt (like animations). I don't think it's in the lib, but you can also use select().
I also remember someone on Gbadev has implemented a king of threading...

the one on GBADEV does not work as of yet, that i know of, and if i interrupt, it gets locked inside.

what is this select()? have any documentation or an example i can use?

select() is a function that check if there is data that can be read on a socket, but it's not implemented in sgstair's lib.
But why don't using non-blocking sockets ? It isn't a problem on a non-OS system like the DS...

if i had TCP i wouldnt mind, but UDP unfortunalty drops data, so there is a less of a chance that i would get it if it were non blocked, plus im keeping networking out of the game loop because its just neater and more versitile when dealing with tons of functions